These are the 5 questions I’ve been asking myself and sharing with my various circles.
- What is something you learned about yourself in 2016? Use your beliefs and behaviors as a starting point.
- What is something you wished you would have learned about yourself in 2016? This might be something you’d like to work on in 2017.
- One year from today, what do you want to be celebrating? Think in terms of tangible success — i.e. holding up a Super Bowl trophy.
- What is the top success factor/measurable for reaching the above goal? Often referred to as the “number”; the one number that determines success.
- What current habit, behavior or bias could prevent you from reaching your celebration goal? We are our own biggest obstacle.
In the spirit of transparency, here are my answers.
- In 2016, I learned how to surrender. By “surrender”, I don’t mean surrendering my beliefs, sovereignty, or values. I mean surrendering to the things that I don’t have control over — especially related to other people’s behavior and decisions. It took me all year and I still feel like I have to re-learn it daily.
- I wished I would have learned active patience. 2016 has been a year of waiting in almost every aspect of life. During the waiting, I would frequently let the waiting turn in to obsession; which would turn in to anxiety. The good news is that I had previously learned to create space between emotions and actions — so I had the wisdom to not be brash. That said, I could have used way more of the waiting time for “active patience”: growth, productivity, creativity.
- One year from today, I want to be celebrating the publishing of three books. One will be a book of my #musings from Instagram. The other will be the last of the “Bacon” books (working title: “Soul Bacon: How to Have a Life that Sizzles”). And the third will be a book co-authored with my Root + River partner Emily Soccorsy.
- The #musings book is essentially written and just needs layout and print. So the top success factor is the discipline to schedule writing time and actually write. Specifically this number is 10 hours per month.
- The top habit/behavior/bias that would prevent success would be getting overwhelmed and living in Covey’s Quadrant One of urgent-and-important. This is unsustainable and robs me of the energy, joy and discipline to create.
If inspired, take a run at answering these questions. And if feeling brave, share your answers in the comments or drop me a note a [email protected]